Overcoming Grief with Music

It’s in me. It’s part of my life every day. Our children even inherited a love for music. It’s not really that surprising since their Dad was a drummer in a band and played guitar when he was young and I started playing clarinet when I was 10 years old. My parents wanted all their children to play an instrument in the church orchestra.

Everyone knows the old saying “Practice Makes Perfect”.                                                                            

I loved the learning part – but the practicing – not so much. Thirty minutes a day (the required practice time at our house) doesn’t sound like that much time, but for a kid it was excruciatingly long.  To make the time go faster, after I had practiced my school band music, I would open the church hymnal to a random page and play something I didn’t know. In less than a year after I started to play I joined the church orchestra. There was practice one night a week and we played for every Sunday evening service. I was never fond of being in front of people to speak, or to sing, but I had found a way to let my music speak for me. Worshiping God through music is inspiring and uplifting.

Music can be the key that unlocks the door to your victory.

When we were pastoring, our church had a prayer vigil where everyone signed up for a time of the day to pray for the church, the members, the leaders, and whatever else needed some Godly intervention. During my time, I always started with prayer, but I always ended my time just worshiping God in song. Music is my God connection, when I’m happy, when I’m sad, when I’m stressed, and even when my heart is broken.
When you’re facing a tragic moment, or you are under a great deal of stress, music, the kind that connects our soul with God, can be the key that unlocks the door to your victory, even when you find yourself in negative circumstances that are not your fault.

Paul and Silas even sang in jail!

An example of this is found in Acts 16: 23-26. Paul and Silas were in prison for preaching the gospel. At midnight the they sang praises to God and worshipped Him. The ground shook. Their shackles fell off and the prison doors opened. A short time later Paul and Silas were free and let go by the jailer. When you sing praises to God . . . His presence just shows up in the middle of your heart-break.

I love what I call the God kind of music.

Music that ministers to everyone’s heart. This kind of music changes things inside you; lifts the burdens; heals broken hearts; bares your soul to God so He can give you what you need. When you look closely at music there is a distinct difference between singing about God and singing to God. When you sing to God your heart is truly in a state of worship. You feel close to Him; comforted by Him; and at the time, you may not know how, but you get the feeling everything is going to be okay. In times of tragedy there is nothing better than to feel close to God and just have a sense of peace that He is still on the throne watching over you and your family. Just reach to Him. He’s accessible. He’s there for you. He wants you to reach out to Him.

The words from songs we all know and love express the feelings of their authors.

In the great song “I Come to the Garden Alone” the songwriter, C. Austin Miles (1868–1946), captures the hunger and desire in the heart of a believer and their seeking for closeness with God.
I come to the Garden alone
While the dew is still on the roses . . .
He walks with me; and He talks with me
And He tells me I am His own.

This kind of personal encounter with God is priceless.

Music can play a major role in helping you focus on worshipping God.
In II Samuel 12, verses 16-23, the Bible tells us about the birth of a child between King David and Bathsheba. The child was very sickly. On the seventh day, the child died. David was broken-hearted, but as soon as he was told that the child had died, David immediately arose and went into the house of the Lord and worshipped God.

Here, you have King David, who as a young man took one smooth stone, put it into his sling, and with one flick of his wrist sent the stone flying into the head of the giant, Goliath. He led the mighty armies of Israel to many great victories. He had all the support of the people of God behind him. But he found himself in a situation he could not control. But, regardless of that fact, even when things did not go the way he wanted them to, in the midst of a heart breaking, tragic moment, his first impulse was to worship God. No doubt, David had a sense of eternity, that he would be re-united with his child.

Many of us have suffered horrific losses.                                                                                                                                                                        

That is perfect time to let your mind instantly worship God. Let your heart and mind think on the words of the song writer, John Newton (1725–1807), who penned the great song “Amazing Grace” from his personal experiences.

When we’ve been there 10,000 years
Bright shining as the sun
We’ve no less days to sing Gods praise
Than when we first begun.

I encourage you to incorporate praise and worship into your daily walk with God. It will draw you closer to Him.

Psalms 150: 1-6

1) Praise ye the Lord. Praise God in his sanctuary: praise him in the firmament of his power.  2) Praise him for his mighty acts: praise him according to his excellent greatness.
3) Praise him with the sound of the trumpet: praise him with the psaltery and harp.  4) Praise him with the timbrel and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs.
5) Praise him upon the loud cymbals: praise him upon the high sounding cymbals.  6) Let every thing that hath breath praise the Lord. Praise ye the Lord.

 

Psalms 81:1

Sing aloud unto God our strength, make a joyful noise unto . . .God . . .

I encourage you to begin to sing unto the Lord. Don’t worry about trying to memorize someone else’s song. Make up your own. It doesn’t have to follow any pre-set established beat or musical pattern. This is between you and God. Just sing out the words that flood from your heart. Don’t worry about being on key. Let the tears flow. Let the brokenness of your heart melt away as His love surrounds you. This kind of worship will change your life forever.

Know today that God inhabits the praises of His people (Psalms 22:3), so:

If you’re broken hearted – Sing unto the Lord.
When you’re happy –  Sing unto the Lord.
If you’re enjoying victory – Sing unto the Lord.

Even when you’re under massive stress – Sing unto the Lord.
Everyone has a song in their heart. You just have to discover it.

Just try it ….today!  I believe, once you start it will become part of your everyday life.

 

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Tricia Gilliam
Tricia Gilliam
Tricia Gilliam is a Co-Founder of Overcoming Grief. She has been in the ministry for more than 40 years. She is an international traveler. She has 6 children, 9 grandchildren, and is an accomplished musician. She prefers to focus her music ministering on God, not just about her. She is extremely talented and provides leadership with keen insights and wisdom. A rare talent in the body of Christ. Please contact me at: triciag@overcominggrief.org
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